The term ‘love language’ stems from Dr. Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages. In the original book, Dr. Chapman wrote about the five different ways of expressing love to your spouse. Those five ‘love languages’ were quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, and receiving gifts.
While originally meant for romance and lovers, this concept has now broadened itself to self-care and self-love. Finding your self-love language is important for you to understand what kinds of self-care practices bring you the most emotional fulfillment. You can rely on this any time you need, but especially when you want to look outside yourself instead of to yourself.
How to find your self-love language
Find out which of these five self-love languages rank highest for you.
1)Receiving Gifts
How to find your self-love language
The most prominent way someone can show they love you is through gifts, then your love language is receiving gifts. But, come to think of it, how many times do we think of gifting ourselves?
The whole sentence might be laughable to many, and therein lies the issue. We are allowed to pamper our own selves with something nice from time to time. It doesn’t have to be expensive; it doesn’t have to be a big deal.
Just invest your money in something that makes you feel good about yourself. It can be as simple as treating yourself with an ice-cream twice a day.
2)Quality Time
Spending time with yourself is underrated. We should all have times in the day when we are alone with our thoughts.
Often, the pressure can be overwhelming, and the only way to deal with setbacks is through self-talk and introspection. Look inside and search for the solutions. Practice mindfulness or meditate. You will come out with a fresh perspective.
But that’s not all. Here are some other ideas that you can try to spend quality time with yourself–
Go on a solo date or trip.
Watch a movie that you absolutely adore.
Go on a hike.
Journal your thoughts.
Go out shopping.
Spring clean – organize everything and donate the items that you don’t want.
Have a spa day at home.
3)Physical Touch
You might be wondering how physical touch can relate to self-love. Well, it can, when you focus on your physical well-being as well as your emotional it can work wonders.
Get enrolled in some physical activities like Zumba or weight lifting or anything that you prefer. Find out which physical activity gives you the most joy. Start eating healthy and take care of your health. Do not slack when it comes to your physical fitness.
4)Words of affirmation
This is one of the easiest, most important, and yet often undone self-care practices. Self-talk and positive affirmations are the foundation of self-love. It’s so much easier for us to talk negatively to ourselves, then it is to say positive things.
We tell others what we admire about them, but how often do we care to pat our own backs on a big triumph? You deserve a compliment from yourself once in a while. Self-affirmations are often needed when you lack motivation. Celebrate your highs and lows with positive words of affirmation.
Here are some ideas for the same –
Figure out the positive affirmations that resonate with you and recite them daily.
Write a loving letter to yourself.
Compliment yourself.
Create a vision board to remind yourself of your dreams.
Forgive yourself for the mistakes you made in the past.
5)Acts of Service
How to find your self-love language
A lot of you might connect to this particular love language. Doing something kind for others or for yourself can lead to tremendous emotional satisfaction.
Be it donating to a charitable cause, indulging yourself in humanitarian activities, or giving yourself permission to relax, show kindness to others, and to yourself in whatever you do.
So, that’s all from my side. Now, it’s your turn. Find out which of these five self-love languages rank the highest for you. Implement them into your daily self-care routine. Later, come back and share your experience in the comments.
Managing a household and a family is no joke. Sometimes, it’s easy to get overwhelmed with all of the chores – the cooking, the cleaning, the dishes…the list goes on. Not to mention actually working yourself and during these present times, home/virtual schooling. However, with the help of a few handy home management skills, you can make the process of managing as well as living in your home, simpler, easier and better.
Simple Home Management Skills that will Make your Life Better
With these 10 tips, you can upgrade your home life and make it less chaotic.
1. Organization
The first thing that jumps to mind when we hear home management, is definitely organizing everything in your home so that things are in their correct places. A cluttered home means a cluttered life.
Of course, if you have kids in the house, the tasks increase tenfold. But, by being strict with your family members, and decluttering the house every once in a while, you can manage to keep your home organized and tidy. You can either clean one room at a time, or you can do a massive weekend decluttering.
2. Meal Planning
“What’s for dinner?” The answer to this question should be ready in your mind when you wake up in the morning. You cannot just grab whatever you can from the refrigerator and throw them together in a pot. Every meal of the day should be planned according to the likes and needs of the family members, to ensure that they get their nutrition while savoring a dish. Variety is the spice of life so a varied diet each day is important to satisfy those hunger pangs.
Sometimes I’m really great at meal planning while other times, I grab whatever is in the fridge/freezer and make something up. With the pandemic, we were lucky enough to stock up on groceries. So we have quite a bit of stock to choose from. Lately, I’ve been putting everything in my Instant Pot, which also doubles as an AirFryer, so that makes dinnertime easy.
3. Laundry
No one really likes doing laundry, but the more you procrastinate, the more dirty clothes pile up until you are out of clothes. What a nightmare! Do not let this happen to you. Form a new habit, a habit of doing a load of laundry every day. Clothes need to be sorted into different washing categories, and then you can just shove them in the machine. However, you do have to have space cleared out separately for dirty laundry and fresh laundry.
We have a cleaning crew that comes 1-2 times a week, and they take care of laundry on those days. However, with 4 people in our home, and working out daily and swimming quite often, we still have a bit of laundry that piles up. I find it easiest to get a load going in the morning and then switch halfway through the day. I’m not the best at hanging or putting away, but everyone knows where the clean laundry is. We also installed a washer/dryer in Steve’s closet, so he does his own laundry throughout the week right in his closet, because he always wears the same things. Even with a closet full, he claims to never have clothes!
4. Finances
Taking care of the budget and finances is one of the most important skills of home management. You need to fix a budget and chalk out how you will spend your money to pay the bills, to buy essentials such as food and clothing, recreation, and more.
I will admit, we don’t have much of a budget, but we do look at finances to figure out when we can take a vacation, or when we can book flights to travel to see family. For our businesses, finances and budgets are a bigger deal.
5. Baskets
Bins and baskets are a neat little way of storing supplies in every room. You can store essential supplies in these baskets and put labels on them so that everyone in the family knows where the dirty laundry goes and where the toiletries are.
This isn’t something we utilize too much in our home aside from the containers the girls have for their toys. We do use these for our short term rental properties and it seems to work quite well and is a nice decorative touch.
6. You’ve Got Mail
Important mail like bills and payments need to be dealt with as soon as they arrive, while some others can be stored away for later. Figure out a system that works for you about how you handle mail when it arrives, how you sort it out, and how you separate the important ones from the less urgent ones.
I personally pick out a day or two during the month, one at the beginning and one in the middle, to do all of the bills that need paid. I typically do online payments, so this is a simple task for me to knock out quickly.
7. Labels
Labels are quite a nifty way to give silent directions to your family members about what goes where. If you have kids in the house, then this is especially helpful for them to always remember where to put their toys and where to put their homework. Implementing the label system in your organizational skills will only lead to smoother operations.
We have friends who use labels for everything, and quite honestly, it was overwhelming for me and makes me shy away from them. However, it would be much easier now that both girls can read, to keep things better organized and picked up.
8. Garden and Yard
You need to assign who gets to do this part of the job. Garden work can be pushed further down the list of priorities. But it’s important to have your yard just as neat and tidy as your house because it makes sense to have a proper usable space outside of the house.
In our home, we do have a landscaper. But my husband LOVES to cut the grass and do yard work. He typically takes care of the landscaping on Saturday or Sunday. We do share the load with ensuring all the rubber mulch (best decision ever) is put back into the border when we are out with the kids or the dogs.
9. To Do Lists and Schedules
It’s essential for you to make to-do lists, checklists, and schedules for yourself in order to get more work done in an efficient manner. With routines, you set up goals for yourself. Which makes it easier for you to get the chores done.
For me, I like to set a weekly plan, instead of a daily list. As it helps me to be flexible with my days while being able to check a few more things off on days that are lighter. Or days where my girls don’t need me as much for virtual school.
10. Grocery Shopping
Once again, you need to assign who buys the groceries in day-to-day life. And your work will be smoothed out for you if you make it a habit to make a list of things you need to shop for. I use apps that deliver the groceries to my front door, without me having to be home.
My favorite is Instacart, but there are several grocers now who have their own app or website where you click the items you want to buy. Then a worker ‘shops’ them and when you or they are ready, you pick them up curbside or in the store. This saves you time and you can add things to your ‘cart’ as you run out and then checkout when you are ready instead of having to remember or write on 10 different paper lists to get everything. Only to end up forgetting things as well, like I do.
With these simple but efficient home management skills, you will find more work getting done in your house in an organized manner, without feeling stressed out all the time.
Before the arrival of the coronavirus, working from home was a privilege available to only a small fraction of society. It was reserved for Work from Home Moms, and many thought it was the easiest thing ever. Post the pandemic, everyone is working from home. And as easy as it sounds on paper, working from home is anything but a piece of cake. Many people cannot find the motivation to work in the place they have always known as home – a center of repose and rest.
The pandemic shows no signs of going away soon.
50 insane work from home productivity hacks
Here are 50 insane work from home productivity hacks to help!
Get dressed for work. For many, the feeling of getting dressed for office is a motivation in itself. So, wear what you normally would when you go to work. Then sit down in front of the computer. This will send signals to your brain, characterizing home as an office.
Get some sunshine. If you are feeling overwhelmed after working for hours, just pause and take a breather. Go for a walk. Don’t take your phone with you.
Don’t take your phone to bed with you at night. Switch off the email and social media notifications.
Coffee is your savior in the work from home environment. But don’t drink too much of it. Or else, you won’t be able to catch a good night’s sleep.
Get a good night’s sleep.
Get some houseplants to make your workspace green.
Never work in the kitchen.
Use Ethernet whenever you can, especially on deadlines.
Use noise-canceling headphones or earmuffs to block the unnecessary chatter out.
Say hello to Zoom and learn how it works.
Switch off your social media alerts when you sit down to work. Do not turn it on.
Take formal breaks like you would if you were really at the office.
Go out of the house after work is done. And recharge.
Create a designated workspace in your house.
Create a dedicated schedule.
Eat vegetables and fruits, drink plenty of water.
Trade your regular chair for an ergonomic, adjustable one from Amazon.
Don’t schedule back-to-back video conferences.
Change positions every now and then, instead of sitting straight for hours.
Never work in bed.
Put on shoes, as you would for going to work. This also gets you in that office headspace.
Make a habit of going to the gym. Or working out at home.
Wake up at least a couple of hours before work. So that you don’t just head off into work the minute you wake up.
Create a bedtime and morning ritual.
Use apps like Evernote to replace sticky post-its.
Set definite work hours.
Create a priority list.
Plan your days so that you don’t end up doing the same thing every day. For example, you could be doing A, B, C on Mondays and Thursdays while you do X, Y, Z on Tuesdays and Fridays.
Set boundaries with your friends and family. Create ‘Do Not Disturb’ hours and let your close ones know.
Stay in touch with your team, so that you do not slack off.
Get up and move, take your eyes off the computer screen for five minutes every hour.
Keep optimizing your workspace.
Don’t work on a laptop for long. Get a desktop installed.
If you have a pet or a baby or a sick child, adjust your work environment accordingly. Do what would be comfortable for you.
Invest in a standing desk.
Wireless keyboard and mouse are your saviors.
Use flexible monitor arms and touchscreens.
Focus on one task at a time.
Make sure you create backups.
Stay flexible.
Look for coffee shops nearest to your house in case your server is down and you have a deadline to meet.
Set up your workspace in natural light, and then next to an indoor plant. It will also lead to a more pleasant state of mind for working.
Stop working at the end of your scheduled work hours. Do not overwork.
Set simple, achievable goals so that you can get the most work done.
Listen to music while working, if that’s your thing.
Listen to audiobooks while you go to sleep.
Declutter your workspace and also keep it as neat as possible.
Use apps in full-screen mode.
Join Discord servers with people who have similar interests, so that you can socialize after work.
Hope this list helps you to kick butt at work and stay focused enough to get things done!
Despite being in the present, we are never in it. We are either still stuck in the past, or we try to stay in the future. Either way, we miss out on what we have right now, we take it for granted.
The key to happiness is just this, live every moment the best you can. One and the only way to do that is to stay in the present and value everything that you are doing and everything you have. That’s what you call mindfulness. In three words – STAYING IN THE MOMENT
Mindfulness has become quite an important concept in recent years because it can change lives. It can empower you to understand your thoughts better, live a peaceful life, and facilitate you to be stronger in your time of need. I feel it becomes more relevant when vacations or breaks come about, like summer or winter break.
If you haven’t practiced mindfulness yet, it’s time you should. We will be guiding you throughout.
7 practical ways to be more mindful
1. Do one thing at a time
When your focus is to be mindful, then you need to divert your attention to just one thing, not many. For instance, if you have piles of files to read, and a few more tasks like application filling, or anything else, do one thing at a time. While you are at it, focus on what you are doing right now, and nothing else. Doing so will not only boost your concentration but will reduce your stress and anxiety as well.
If you have many things to focus on, my favorite thing to use is this timer cube to set specific amounts of time to work on things. I try to use it when I have major deadlines and also need to shop for products for the next home renovation project we have going. It really does allow me to have a set deadline to work on things and when it beeps, I get to take a break or focus on something else. I feel it keeps me on track more and lets me focus on one thing at a time instead of trying to work on all the open tabs at once.
2. Focus on your breath
Do you know why breathing is integral in any kind of meditation? Because it helps in linking your body with your mind. When you are conscious of every breath you take, you are being in the present. I have learned to focus and actually breathe through stretching and yoga the most. Before I started doing those two things, I unconsciously would hold my breath and then be gasping for are doing the simplest of tasks. If you are going through something hard, focusing on the breath may be the thing that gets you through.
That’s not it; doing so can tremendously boost your concentration levels, and help you stay more productive throughout.
3. Practice active listening
There are a hundred noises that exist but you don’t hear them when you are engrossed in something. But these almost inaudible noises can help you become mindful, every day. You can listen to clocks ticking, or the sound of the fan. Literary any noises that you neglect daily.
My family knows I can hear almost everything, even when the room is noisy. I practice active listening and it allows me to remember and see and catch most things people miss because they are too worried about what they are going to say next and have no idea what is happening around them.
4. Listen to an Audiobook
If you happen to be a book lover, this is just for you. Listening to audiobooks can be entertaining and at the same time a great exercise to practice mindfulness and develop your listening skills. While you are at it, make full use of your imagination skills. Imagine as if you are in the book itself. Imagine every detail, picture everything the author is saying.
5. Go for a walk
You might not get a lot of ideas at your home, but walking in a park can offer you many. You just have to see everything there is to see on your walks. If there’s a kid in the pram, look at it, if a man is tying his shoes, look at him. Looking at things around you is a great way to practice mindfulness. If you have pets or kids, a walk is a great way to show them a new perspective as well as get out some energy. They might even give you some new ideas you didn’t think of as well.
If you happen to take a run as well, then notice how you breathe after being exhausted and tired. Notice the movements of your chest and stomach while you gasp for breath after the run. It’s just another way to sync your body and mind.
6. Practice meditation
Meditation and mindfulness go hand in hand, so much so that meditation is about mindfulness because it makes you focus on your thoughts and body at the same time. Meditation helps you discover things about yourself you didn’t think possible. When I first started meditating, I couldn’t quiet my mind so I used guided meditations. Then, as I did it more, and was used to it, I was able to quiet my mind on my own. Now, I use quiet moments throughout the day as a sort of meditation because I know what it feels like to be quiet in my mind. I find myself being much calmer when I take the extra moments to meditate.
7. Don’t count the pages
How often do you find yourself counting pages that are left to cover? I bet all the time. Stop doing it because it is the opposite of mindfulness. When you are worried about the remaining pages, you are not in the present but somewhere in the future for a few seconds. You don’t have to do that. Instead, you have to focus on the pages you are currently reading or writing, and that’s how you practice mindfulness.
As a kid, when we had to take the reading tests in school, to “win” I would read the first chapters of the book and skip to the end to take the test and read the most books. I didn’t work because I usually didn’t get all the questions right to pass the test. I learned then and there, it’s so important to take in all the in between not only the beginning and the end.
That’s all we had to say. But there are a million more ways to practice mindfulness; you can practice it while doing any activity that you do.
If you find these tips helpful, please let us know in the comment section. We also welcome suggestions or feedback that you would like to provide us.
Up until now, you must have assumed minimalism to be beneficial for your décor and budget. But did you know that it can yield plenty of health benefits as well? Much to your surprise it’s all linked.
Well, the concept is quite a rage these days and almost every one of us might be familiar with the principle of it. But in case you aren’t, let’s give you a heads up.
In a nutshell, minimalism emphasizes having fewer possessions. This means, the less you possess, the more sorted you will be in life.
The principle yields a lot of benefits when you include it in your lifestyle. By reducing clutter at home, you reduce clutter in your head.
Not only that, there are various other health benefits of minimalism.
Read on to find out!
7 powerful health benefits of minimalism
1. Provides cleaner air
Powerful Health Benefits of Minimalism
Dust is everywhere. It is in the air, but it becomes a problem when dust and mites attach themselves to surfaces. That means the more surfaces (things) there are; the more dust and mites will stick to it.
Cleaning might solve this problem. But imagine when there would be so many surfaces to wipe the dust off them, how hectic and polluting it will be for you.
However, when you have less stuff, you will be done with cleaning in just a few minutes! Consequently, you will feel the ambiance and air to be cleaner.
2. Provides freedom
When you have a house to run on a tight budget, the most stressful thing would be financial management.
But with minimalism, you can save more. Thereby, you will have a much wider financial space, to make wiser decisions.
In addition to that, fewer things would allow more space in your home. Consequently, you will not feel suffocated as you did with more stuff and less space. You will be free to move around, in free spirit.
3. Improves social life
As a homemaker, how often have you canceled plans because you had cleaning chores to do? Well, if it happens frequently, then you know household chores have damaged your social life.
It’s a given that when you have more possessions, it will take longer to clean them. But with minimalism, cleaning will be easier and quicker! It would save you plenty of time to go out, hang out with your friends.
Trust me it will also help you improve your relationship with other people that you neglected because of chores. If suppose you have a friend with whom you haven’t talked to in a while because of work, you can dial them up, and talk like before.
4. Less stress
It cannot be denied that cleaning chores are exhausting when there is so much to do single-handedly. Consequently, as a homemaker, you would worry all the time!
“How would I manage to do it all?”
“It’s just a few minutes before dinner time, and I’m still not done”
But when you have fewer tasks to tackle, you will be less stressed; meaning your mental health will improve significantly.
5. You would focus less on material possessions
When you are a minimalist, you would value moments and memories more than some material possessions. You will be happy with what you have, and you would not desire more. You will be satisfied thereby, improving your mental health.
6. You would focus more on health
Let me guess, all this while you had been so occupied with chores, that you took your health for granted. You stopped taking care of yourself, had a poor diet, and exhausted your body severely without taking enough rest!
If that’s so, then with minimalism, you can repair the damage by finding time to take care of your health needs.
7. Allows time to exercise and pursue hobbies
The one major advantage of minimalism is that it allows free time for you. You can utilize this time to indulge in exercises, boosting your physical health. Likewise, your mental health improves when you find time to devote to your hobbies (After all, hobbies make you happy)
I hope we maneuvered you into realizing the health benefits of minimalism. So, what are you waiting for? Embrace minimalism, today!
Let us know how it works out for you in the comment section.
2020 has not been a great year for most of us. We were stuck in a pandemic (we still are), and life has been at a standstill since then. But do you ever find yourself thinking that maybe, just maybe you could have made 2020 your most productive year ever? With the lockdown on, you could have pursued your hobbies that you abandoned long ago because of the 9 to 5 schedule.
You could have tried to develop yourself, or perhaps read a little more. If you do feel that, it has not been late. Covid-19 is still there and partial lockdowns as well, at least in some parts of the world. The opportunity still presents itself to make better use of it.
(We don’t mean to be harsh here, and we do pray that everything stays fine with you),
This means that you can still reinvent your life, and go back to the COVID-free world as a whole new person.
Wondering how? Lockdown or no lockdown, we have got you sorted.
5 ways to reinvent your life in 2021
1. Develop a routine
We don’t know if you relate to it or not, but lockdown did fulfill our sleeping needs. So much so that we slept throughout the day, and stayed awake at night. We don’t need to tell that if it was your routine then, it was quite damaging. This is especially true now that school is officially out for summer and the kids have nothing to do.
Nonetheless, you can still change and adopt a productive routine. You can start by following a morning routine to calm your body and soul. Add exercises, meditation, journaling, or short walks to it. In short, keep good care of your body and mind.
Later add plans to your routine to fulfill your professional and self-development commitments by setting daily targets.
2. Learn a new skill
Back then, learning a new skill required you to be physically present. However, now because of the COVID situation, the dynamics have dramatically transformed. Everything is online now, from college classes to courses. You can acquire any skill, right from your home without moving a step. So…what are you waiting for?
Here’s a bonus – every skill that you learn will be ribbons and glitters for your resume.
3. Improve your vocabulary
An enhanced vocabulary would always be your highlight, regardless of any field you belong in. You can make it your goal to learn at least one word every day. However, you have to make sure that you keep on revising what you learned from time to time to keep them in your memory.
To make it all easy and more motivating, you can create your vocabulary flashcards or vocabulary notepad to be more thorough and systematic with your endeavor.
If you plan to start today, consider Outlandish your first word of the day!
4. Work on your flaws
The social media world says that you have to admire your flaws. True, you should, but you should also work on the flaws to make yourself better. This applies to flaws you can change.
Thus, be honest with yourself and identify your flaws. Then find ways to work on them. For instance, if you have anger issues or lack confidence, find ways to work on them. Make it your goal, and get there one step at a time.
5. Lastly, practice consistency
5 ways to reinvent your life in 2021
Do you know what makes dreamers and achievers different from each other? Dreamers envision their goals, work towards them, and then become inconsistent. While on the same side, achievers are consistent. They know they won’t get the results if they are not consistent with it.
You have to do the same. When you have sworn to reinvent yourself and are working towards it, then stay consistent and believe in yourself.
Before we ask your leave
Every day is a good day to start so do not waste time thinking, just get to it. You can reinvent yourself. You just have to believe that you can, envision your goal, and as mentioned before, be consistent with it. That’s all it takes.
That’s all we have to say. I hope this article helps you in your endeavor. If you have new ideas or tips for us, feel free to drop them in the comments section.
your physical well-being as well as your emotional it can work wonders.
the morning. You cannot just grab whatever you can from the refrigerator and throw them together in a pot. Every meal of the day should be planned according to the likes and needs of the family members, to ensure that they get their nutrition while savoring a dish. Variety is the spice of life so a varied diet each day is important to satisfy those hunger pangs.
need to fix a budget and chalk out how you will spend your money to pay the bills, to buy essentials such as food and clothing, recreation, and more.
in these baskets and put labels on them so that everyone in the family knows where the dirty laundry goes and where the toiletries are.
of priorities. But it’s important to have your yard just as neat and tidy as your house because it makes sense to have a proper usable space outside of the house.
do one thing at a time. While you are at it, focus on what you are doing right now, and nothing else. Doing so will not only boost your concentration but will reduce your stress and anxiety as well. 
But these almost inaudible noises can help you become mindful, every day. You can listen to clocks ticking, or the sound of the fan. Literary any noises that you neglect daily. 
to see everything there is to see on your walks. If there’s a kid in the pram, look at it, if a man is tying his shoes, look at him. Looking at things around you is a great way to practice mindfulness. If you have pets or kids, a walk is a great way to show them a new perspective as well as get out some energy. They might even give you some new ideas you didn’t think of as well. 
because it is the opposite of mindfulness. When you are worried about the remaining pages, you are not in the present but somewhere in the future for a few seconds. You don’t have to do that. Instead, you have to focus on the pages you are currently reading or writing, and that’s how you practice mindfulness. 
happens frequently, then you know household chores have damaged your social life.
possessions. You will be happy with what you have, and you would not desire more. You will be satisfied thereby, improving your mental health.
slept throughout the day, and stayed awake at night. We don’t need to tell that if it was your routine then, it was quite damaging. This is especially true now that school is officially out for summer and the kids have nothing to do. 
make it your goal to learn at least one word every day. However, you have to make sure that you keep on revising what you learned from time to time to keep them in your memory.
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