Every experience can teach you a lot. Whether it is working a job, or going on a trip, there are always lessons you can learn to become better individuals and make wise life choices. Surprisingly, even in little instances, little experiences have their own significance when they can give you a lot of takeaways – both big and small.
One such little moment for me, was when I decluttered my wardrobe. I learned a lot more than just facts that decluttering is tough, and I owned a huge wardrobe.
Here are the ten lessons that will stay with me, all carrying trivial and big revelations.
10 Lessons I learned from decluttering my wardrobe
1. I have wasted a lot of money
When you are decluttering your wardrobe, there are not just one or two pieces of clothing you discard, there’s a bunch full of them – including the clothes that we bought but only wore once or twice. Now imagine how much we could have saved, had we made better purchasing decisions. Sounds relatable enough? If yes, then learn from my mistakes. Buy only those clothes that you know you would wear certainly.
2. What I thought I wanted, was what I merely needed
“I want it.”, that’s the constant thought I get whenever I find a dress captivating. There’s a desperate urge to buy clothes even when I am trying to save money. Well, I don’t know if that’s your weak spot, but it’s definitely mine.
Nonetheless, it was only after decluttering, I realized that what I thought I wanted, was just my urge. And when it comes to that, it’s not difficult to control once you realize that the world won’t collapse if your wardrobe doesn’t have that attire.
3. We can never be satisfied
I have heard from the saints, from the legends that we humans can never be satisfied. It is not some kind of epiphany but it definitely felt like it while I was decluttering. I owned so many clothes – only because I was never satisfied with what I had. Satisfaction comes from gratitude. We need to be more grateful for the things we have.
4. Less is Better
When it came to shopping fashion, I always believed having less is worse. I didn’t see the bigger picture back then. But now I do; ever since I got rid of a stack full of clothes – I don’t have less, I have more. And somehow, having less feels better. I realized it when I saw my closet emptier than before – it feels light. It’s as if a heavy load has been dropped off my chest. I also realize how much shopping was emotional for me and not in a good way. It was a coping mechanism verses an actual need of things.
5. Going with the trend and comparing is not important
Life is too short to worry about trivial things. Things like – “I have to keep up with the trend” “People might judge me if I dress shabbily.” “I want people to like me, even if that involves doing an expensive, and unaffordable wardrobe makeover”
Now that I think about it, it doesn’t matter – you don’t have to keep up with the fashion – the world won’t be affected. Moreover, you belong with the people who like you for being you – not your wardrobe.
6. We must strive to be in the present – even when picking a wardrobe
How often do you find yourself buying outfits for a future party that hasn’t been decided yet? I bet it happens all the time. But trust me, when it comes to wardrobe picking, never shop from a future perspective unless you know the event is certain to happen. Moreover, don’t shop for too many categories of clothes you know you wouldn’t wear frequently.
7. Material things only give temporary joy
This was something I already know, but it hit me only after decluttering. I remember how happy I was after buying a dress I liked. One week later, and after constant wear, it didn’t even matter.
8. “What-if” items are just a waste of space
Go back to the last time you were decluttering – you kept a few things wondering, “What if you’ll need it later?” Now, where are those things? Do you use them or are they still lying as they were back then?
I bet it’s the latter. But you’re not alone, it’s a universal story. Nonetheless, there’s no point in keeping “What-if things” because if you didn’t use it until now, you are not going to use it later – as simple as that.
9. Decluttering can significantly reduce stress
Are you finding the magic potion to manage stress? Trust me, decluttering can help a lot. It can reduce stress significantly – including the decluttering stress, the morning rush, and most importantly, I-cannot-find-the-dress-I-want-to-wear stress.
10. Decluttering is not a one-time process
You may get rid of some things, but things will be the same. I mean, over time you will buy new things and at the same time, you’ll find a lot of things that you wouldn’t need. So, decluttering is not a one-time process, it should be a regular practice that you must involve yourself in at least once a month.
Hey there, are there some lessons you learned too while decluttering? If yes, feel free to share them with us in the comment section.
You might have a good relationship with people around you – be it your family, friends, or your partner. But, what about your relationship with yourself?
Yes, it is the forgotten road. Not everyone focuses on building a healthy relationship with themselves even when it’s so very essential.
But, why is it so necessary?
Because when you have a good relationship with yourself, you have the confidence to take up any challenge, grow and take the world by the storm. Additionally, a strong relationship is essential for happiness as well. You won’t find happiness in everything that’s around you but in yourself. You have to live inside your skin, and the better relationship you have within that skin, the better off you will be with the environment and people around you.
So, think through, ask yourself, do you have a strong relationship with yourself? If not, worry not, it’s never too late. Here’s a few ways we can help build it.
7 Steps to improve your relationship with yourself
1. Spend some quality time with yourself
You might like hanging out with your friends, your partner, your family, but what about hanging out with yourself? How about spending time with yourself to find peace and understand yourself better? Well, if you haven’t done that yet, do it now.
It will help you become happier and satisfied with yourself. You won’t look for anybody else to pass your leisure time with. So, go on and do what you like to do. Spend some time with yourself, whether it is something as big as taking a solo trip, or as little as going on a solo date.
I personally like to do this at least once a week, something new that’s not a normal routine, where I go by myself to do something where I’m the only one who needs the company and entertainment. It helps me get out of my head and focus on what I want. Sometimes it’s lunch where I sit and people watch, sometimes it’s a massage, other times, it’s a walk with the dogs outside to clear my head. Do what makes you feel good and it can be as often as daily depending on your schedule.
2. Pamper your body
What would be the one thing you’d like to change about yourself? Think through.
I bet most of you thought of a zero-size figure, flawless skin, frizzy hair. If you did, it’s a sign that you do not love your body enough when you should because your body is the vessel that contains you. It is sacred, it is divine.
Having said that, you have to love and worship your body even if people don’t. People don’t matter, YOU matter. Besides, people will always demand perfection – and you don’t owe anyone to be perfect.
So, go pamper yourself with a spa session, apply a face mask, moisturize skin, eat healthily – give your body the care it deserves.
3. Stand up for yourself and your needs
You don’t have to sit silent when someone is brutal to you. You don’t have to finish an extra file if it’s past your work time. And you don’t have to do something you are not comfortable with.
In short, you have to stand up for yourself. Trust me; no one will come to your rescue except you. At the same time, the world would not recognize and acknowledge your desires if you aren’t blunt about them. As they say, “If you want something, ask for it.” So, whether it is a raise or something else – ask away without the fear of being judged.
We have all had a rough couple of years, and it’s not going to let up any time soon. The sooner you stand up for yourself and not let anyone else put their needs before yours, the better off you will be and the more respect you will have for yourself.
4. Talk to yourself
I know what you might be thinking, and to answer that – No, talking to yourself is not being insane. In fact, ditch the notion that the world has set. If talking to yourself makes you feel better and lighter, there’s no reason you should think twice before doing it.
Doing so will not only be beneficial for your mental health but also it’ll reduce your dependence on people. Now that I have mentioned it, gulp down this bitter truth as well – people cannot be available for you all the time – they have work, they have their own life. So, it’s better to be there for yourself than expecting someone to be there for you.
I talk to myself all the time, it’s quite soothing and encouraging actually. I use it when I need to calm myself down, hype myself up, encourage myself, help reduce the anxiety, shut my brain off and just listen. And so many other situations. I especially use it when I’m working out to get the extra mile or rep when I don’t feel like I can push on. It helps me in so many different ways.
5. Make journaling your friend
I talked about reducing your dependence on others for your emotional needs; journaling is how you do that.
Journaling is ideal to improve mental health because it establishes and improves the relationship you have with yourself. If you feel that you have a lot to vent, or want to feel motivated, or be praised – there’s one solution, write it all out.
And don’t do it for just this once – make journaling your habit. Add it to your lifestyle. You can do so by including journaling in your morning or night routine. Fill a few pages every day and you’ll be the most peaceful.
I find when I’m the most stressed or emotionally charged, journaling allows me to get out everything I am feeling, without judgement of anyone else, and clear my mind. I don’t have to let anyone else see it. It doesn’t need to make sense, can be run on sentences and improper grammar, but it doesn’t matter because its just a brain and emotional dump to get out everything that needs out. I always feel better after journaling.
6. Help yourself, solve your own problems
Things can get tough, you might run into problems, but you don’t have to run to others to solve them. Be there for yourself. Try to solve your problems on your own. Pretend like there’s no one you can go to.
However, if it still doesn’t work out, then feel free to seek help. The idea is not to hesitate or be egoistic to ask for help, the idea is to try to help yourself first. Kids learn this early on when they are developing and learning to crawl or walk – we put the toy or object away from them and encourage them to figure out how to get from where they are to where they want to be, and ultimately encourage them to learn a new skill. It’s not any different, and you might even learn a little resilience you didn’t know you had!
7. Believe in yourself
At the end of the day, low self-worth comes from disbelief in yourself. The reason perhaps you don’t take up a challenge might be because you don’t believe that you can win it. So, the first thing is to believe that you can.
You can do that by suppressing your limiting beliefs, recollecting your past achievements, and being optimistic. All that might change your mindset for the better. Believing in yourself applies to every day life as well, it doesn’t have to be a special occasion or a big moment, apply it to all the moments and see how much change you find in your life.
Finally,
Building a healthy relationship with yourself is neither a one-time process nor a quick one. It takes a lot of time. In fact, it would be appropriate to say it’s a journey. So be patient, and start it. Don’t be impatient to reach the destination; it’s a journey to enjoy. Know that you will continue on the self love and self worth journey with each stage in your life, until you die, so why not start sooner than later?
Do you open your closet and fall against your back beneath a pile of clothes? Do you take hours to find that top you want to wear? If yes, it means your closet is full of stuff you don’t need; and you need to declutter.
However, I do know that decluttering can be a struggle. I mean how often have you taken out, and put back clothes in a conflict? So, the point is, decluttering requires letting go. And as they say, letting go is not easy. Nonetheless, it’s important if you want peace. If you want to attack your whole house, I encourage you to read Marie Kondo’s book, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. When I read this book the first time, my life completely changed. I found so much more space in my home and felt so much better about myself. I often revisit the principals and do my decluttering at least once a month. Let’s get started on a very easy, but also difficult area, your clothes. Here are a few tips I use often when I’m decluttering and deciding what to keep and not. These work well with anyone in your family, even the kids.
How to Declutter your Clothes
1. Separate the clothes you frequently wear, and those you don’t
Letting go of clothes requires a tough heart. But before you must get to that, how about starting easy?
So, the first step is to segregate the clothes you frequently wear, and those you don’t. The first batch is definitely the one you won’t have to let go of. While for the former, you know you have to. If you have seasons and want to start with clothes you haven’t worn all season, like sweater or jeans or dresses, this makes quick work.
Now the logic behind this segregation is, it won’t be much of a struggle with clothes you don’t wear and you don’t care about. These are the ones you can let go of easily. If you haven’t worn them all season, they go right into the pile, especially if the seasons are about to change. However, sometimes even that can be troublesome. If the struggle seems familiar, you might want to follow the next step.
2. Separate the ones that are worn out or those that don’t fit you anymore
Worn-out clothes – those that look old and ragged, or have threads pulling out, buttons broken, with tears- are easy to let go because there’s no reason to keep them – making the first lot that you can get rid of, easily.
Next, coming to those clothes that don’t fit you anymore. You might be tempted to keep them on a pretense that you’ll get back in shape. I often do this with workout clothes that are too big but still in good shape. I always think about how much money was spent on them and try to wear them again, even if they are falling down when I try to run. It’s honestly more frustrating and I always take that clothing item off, sometimes mid workout, and put it in the donate pile, because it’s so annoying. But I’m not going to gain the weight back or lose the muscle I have so I won’t fit into them again. You need to ask yourself the same, will you commit to a routine where you can wear them again, or not? Would you be able to exercise regularly? Would you be able to eat clean? Are you committed to achieving being able to wear the item again?
Be honest with yourself here. If you think you cannot fit into them again – let go. If you think otherwise, separate those clothes and give them a one-month timeline. During this month, you have to exercise, eat clean, and try to reduce the fat no matter what. If you manage to do that, feel free to keep them. If not – you know what to do.
3. Know where to donate your clothes
Kindness feels good. Sometimes when you know you are donating your clothes to those in need, your heart gets bigger. In other words, you let go without much of a struggle. So, if you want to seriously let go of clothes, and want to help someone, talk to an orphanage or social services regarding clothes donation. Once you do that, clothing donation would seem like an obligation (It’s a good thing).
Here in Arizona, there are drop off boxes for shoes, clothes, household items, books and similar items that benefit local charities. I feel better about taking my items that are still in good shape to these places because they do get a second life with someone who can use them. Obviously, if the clothes are stained or not in good shape, I don’t add them to the pile. Other items I take to Goodwill because they don’t fit into the above mentioned categories.
4. Ask yourself all the decluttering questions
Decluttering can be a struggle, but it can become fairly easy if you ask yourself the right questions. Here is the checklist.
“Do I really like this piece of clothing?”
“Do I wear these kinds of clothes?”
“Would I really have them altered?”
“Is there going to be a party anytime soon, where I can wear it?”
“Am I not letting it go because it’s in good condition, knowing that I don’t wear it?”
“Am I not letting go because it created a hole in my pocket?”
“Does this item bring me joy?” — Marie Kondo question
Once you ask these questions, it’s a no-brainer that you have to be honest with yourself. Nonetheless, if you are conflicted about the last two questions – trust me there’s no use in creating unnecessary space even when it’s in good condition. If you are donating, someone can use it. Secondly, if it was expensive, it’s in the past, you cannot get the money back, so there’s no point in holding it either. And if someone can use that expensive item and actually enjoy and use it, it’s serving them better than sitting in your closet collecting dust and taking up space.
This deserves another section because it’s something sensitive. Sometimes you don’t keep clothes because you think they’re in perfectly good condition, or you wasted money on them, but because those clothes are souvenirs of moments or people. Holding onto these items can mean you are not moving on.
So, ask yourself, “Is it the right thing to do?” “What are other ways I can remember this person or moment?” Sometimes, you can look in your phone and find a photo of the clothing item, the person or experience, and keep the memory that way versus the clothing item.
It’s you who has to make the call.
Lastly, Make it a routine
You might want one piece of clothing really bad this month, but a few months later, you might even forget about it because you wouldn’t like it anymore. It’s human nature – we get bored and tired of things, especially clothes, that’s why we keep buying new, not because we own fewer of them.
So, it is highly suggestible to evaluate your clothes every now and then, make it a routine. Trust me, decluttering cannot be a one-time process, because of the same reason mentioned above, and because we own too much. We change, clothes change, as do the seasons. It’s important to remember it’s ok to change and want different things, just remember to sort out your closet as much as you change your mind.
Nonetheless, once again, to make it easier, you need to ask yourself all the right questions. (The ones I listed above, in the previous section) and answer honestly.
Hey there, do you find decluttering hard? Feel free to share your views and ideas with us in the comment section.
One of the secrets to a peaceful, stress-free, healthy, and productive life is a healthy nighttime routine. As breakfast is the most important meal of the day, your nighttime is the most important part of the day. The reason being – it’s the time your body sleeps and relaxes, to boost itself for the next day. What you do every night before bed could mean the difference between a good night’s sleep and not.
So, if you want to make your next day healthier and productive, you have to follow a nighttime routine to reap all the benefits. Here are all the things you need to do.
10 things you need to do every night before bed
1. Read a few pages
Want to relax and unwind? Reading is a great way to relax your mind and body. Not to forget, reading comes packed with benefits – for starters, you acquire knowledge, develop analytical, comprehensive, and critical skills. The list can go on but the point remains the same – reading is the best thing you can do for yourself.
While you are at it, do not finish the entire book in one night. You cannot compromise your sleep even when you are hooked to the book. Additionally, make sure you don’t read digital books, but paper books as they would be much healthier for your eyes.
2. Keep gadgets away
We have been told for ages that long and continuous exposure to gadgets is not good for the eyes and brain. They are not good for your sleep either as the blue light from the screen can strain your eyes and affect your sleep quality.
So, make sure you keep gadgets away at least an hour before you sleep.
3. Turn on the diffuser
Want to have a calm and peaceful sleep? Diffusers are the answer. They have been a rage in recent years for the right reason – Essential oils in diffusers produce an aroma that can leave you enchanted and de-stressed in no time. Ergo – plug them in before you sleep. We use them in the girls’ room to help them wind down and actually get sleep right away instead of tossing and turning and not getting sleep. My favorite oil for them is Lavender because their problems are minimal compared to us adults, so Lavender is generally great for them. If you want to use doTERRA like we do, you can grab yours here. I use the Serenity Blend for Steve and I to help relax our minds and help us settle the problems we might be trying to get away from during the day.
However, if you are worried about electricity consumption – be assured that diffusers typically use little electricity. If you still would want a different alternative, you can go for room fresheners and tea-light diffusers. (If you choose the latter, make sure the tea-light is away from anything combustible – including curtains, sheets, and wooden surfaces.)
4. Prepare for the next day
Have a bag to set? Clothes to select and prepare? Vegetables to cut? Refill and refrigerate the bottle? Do them the night before if you want to spare yourself the morning rush. If you have kids to get ready, knowing what to make for breakfast and also how you will get them to school is important to plan so you leave on time.
5. Stay away from caffeine
Addicted to coffee? We all have been there and we all love it unconditionally. However, as much as you can’t keep yourself away from coffee before you sleep – you have to if you don’t want to stay awake like a night-owl. Having said that, ban all caffeinated products, including green tea as it contains trace amounts of caffeine.
6. Plan the next day
Have lots of tasks to do tomorrow? Plan your day ahead. Prepare a to-do list and a schedule to stay motivated and productive the entire day.
7. Do Breathing exercises
Do you know why Yoga and meditation are life-changing? Because they include breathing exercises. Ergo, if you cannot indulge in meditation at night, do a five-minute breathing exercise before you go to sleep – Not only will it relax your body and mind but will also improve your body functions through an increased supply of oxygen.
8. Stretching
Stretching in the morning certainly has its own benefits, but stretching before you sleep is no less beneficial for your body and sleep. Stretching can increase blood circulation, relieve muscle tensions, and can even make you feel more relaxed.
However, ensure that you do not indulge in workout-like stretches – be gentle, you don’t need to get your body alarmed – you have to relax it.
Bear hugs, Knee-to-chest, Spinal twists, Child’s Pose, Butterfly stretch are some of the ones you can try for a good night’s sleep. If you need a better routine and want to do yoga classes, or even foam rolling, I love my Peloton app for that exact thing. Use this link to get 60 days for free!
9. Remove make up- Do some skincare
Your skin goes through a lot during the daytime – the stress, pollution, dust and dirt, whatnot. The least you can do is take care of it at the end of the day. For starters, remove your make-up, apply a face pack, and moisturize your skin. Aka give your skin the care it deserves.
10. Lastly, some tips to improve sleep quality
Make it a rule to sleep at least 8 hours a day. Go to bed early if necessary to achieve that goal, or sleep late if you are more of a night owl. Here are some additional tips that can help you have that sound and deep sleep you wish all night.
Sleep in total darkness – Close the curtains
Make sure your bed is cozy.
The room is cool.
Sleep with an eye mask. – Our favorite one here which Steve uses nightly and I use when we travel.
Play calm noises in the background.
Refrain from midnight snacking.
Exercise during the day.
Have a few more tips to share? Feel free to enlighten all of us in the comment section. You are most welcome there.
Have you ever felt like being an adult is opening your eyes to the negativities of life? Whether it’s in real life or social media, there are just so many atrocities and less compassion going around. The sad part about it is it can easily affect you, your mood, your day, and your outlook in life.
Being an adult comes with responsibilities. Sometimes, it’s challenging to maintain a healthy perspective when these obligations become overwhelming. So, to manage stress, you resort to outlets that you consider as self-care.
There are too many ideas that go around self-care, and some of them are common misconceptions. First on the list is that people tend to think of it as self-indulgence. It’s not about luxurious items like bags, clothes, jewelry, or expensive activities. The value of self-care doesn’t equate to the value of material things you have or acquire.
It’s a backward concept to think that practicing self-care is being selfish. It’s more about self-discipline, practice on understanding what your mind and body genuinely need. There’s no absolute coverage of self-care. As long as it serves its purpose of looking over your well-being to cope with stress and be mentally and physically healthy, then it’s self-care.
Nowadays, anxiety and depression are at an all-time high everywhere. People got lonelier and overwhelmed daily. In this post, I will delve into this vital topic of self-care and why it is crucial.
What is Self Care and Why Is It Important
We all know a thing or two about self-care. Most conversations on social media, podcasts, blogs, and books talk about it. It’s a massive part of today’s culture. But take a closer look at what it truly is. Essentially, self-care is any activity you intend to nourish your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
World Health Organization (WHO) describes it as “the ability of individuals, families, and communities to promote health, prevent disease, maintain health, and to cope with illness and disability with or without the support of a healthcare provider.” So, it’s a concept recognized on a global scale that mainly aims to promote health.
It affects the entire community, and it starts with how we individually work on it. It’s essential to be mindful and intentional in practicing self-care. Achieve the goal of self-care by being attuned to your own needs and wants, which can be difficult, but it’s doable. So, let’s dive deeper into why self-care is important.
Why Is Self Care Important
It encourages you to have a healthy relationship with yourself
Going back to the definition given by WHO, self-care is mainly about staying healthy physically, which includes nutrition, hygiene, and getting all the medical care needed. In essence, it’s about taking care of your health, which is a solid foundation for having a healthy relationship with yourself. It fosters self-sufficiency and resilience. Maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself allows you to be more present for other people. As they say, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
It helps reduce stress, anxiety, and depression
One of the many benefits of self-care is that it helps reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. When you’re physically and emotionally exhausted, your focus tends to get aggravated. Your to-do list might seem to take much of your time, but it’s important to remember that self-care is part of stress management.
There are many ways to do this, like getting enough sleep, preparing and consuming healthy meals, regular exercise, crafting, taking a stroll, and making time for friends. These are all physical self-care and emotional self-care.
It helps improve concentration
When stress builds up, you feel irritable, restless, sometimes insomniac, and lackluster motivation. All these can significantly affect your focus. The most important part of practicing focus is mindfulness. Choose the kind of self-care that lets you have a better sleep, better memory, and keeps you motivated.
Meditation is an excellent example of attaining physical and emotional concentration. It is spiritual self-care that deepens our connection with who we are inside.
It increases energy levels
Stress consumes energy, so it’s essential to take care of yourself daily. Keep your energy levels up and be on the go. To keep you energized, here are tips to achieve it:
Drink water to keep you alert.
Limit caffeine and go for healthier options.
Get enough sleep to have a refreshed mind.
Do things that bring you joy.
Self Care Practices
There are many forms of self-care, but the most crucial part of it is your eagerness to try what works for you. When you take those necessary steps to eliminate stressors and take better care of yourself, you can maintain strong physical and mental health. Here are some of the best self-care practices:
Simplify your schedule
To live a simpler and stress-free life, simplify your schedule. Always running around, constantly being busy with work, and other activities can take the joy out of your day. So, simplify your schedule by knowing your limits. DOn’t stretch yourself too thin just to accommodate everything and everyone. Prioritize what and who matters most to you.
Create a gratitude list
There are many benefits to making a gratitude list. It can create a significant impact on your mental health and happiness. Inner strength and self-compassion give you a better perspective of understanding yourself and other people. What you can try to do is keep track of every good thing that happens to you. Journal regularly so that on days when you need happy thoughts more, you’ll have a pocketful of affirmations that better days are real and down days pass.
Unplug for a day
According to a study from Stanford in 2014, productivity decreases when your work more than 50 hours per week. Unplugging for a day helps you to focus. Switch off your phone or log out of any social media platforms. Take that day to give your mind and body a rest.
Do something new
By doing things you haven’t done before, sometimes helps in making you feel bored and frustrated. Reinvigorate your sense of adventure. Write ideas that you consider outrageous and take action.
Meet with a counselor
You don’t have to do it alone. Seek help if needed. Find a counselor whom you’re comfortable speaking with and make it a commitment to yourself. Reach out to trusted counselors, therapists, and other behavioral health providers to help you equip tools against trauma, situations, and other mental health challenges
Ultimately, self-care is a choice you have to make to want to have better well-being proactively. It is always worth your time and money, especially in this time when stress and anxiety are at an all-time high. It’s not self-indulgent nor selfish. It’s about making sure that you are healthy and living your best life, not just for yourself but for others as well.
It’s not easy to be a woman in this misogynist and patriarchal world, especially if you are an entrepreneur. The world will push you down, question you, doubt your verdicts just because you are a woman. But in between that, what you cannot do is give up because of misogynism. Even though yes, sometimes you might feel like cracking up, doubt your capabilities, and question your position in the business and social environment, but just so you know, you do not have to give up.What can keep you going despite all of that is confidence. When you are confident enough to believe in yourself, you are bound to kill it. So hold on, show the world what you are made of.But, in case, if you are struggling with a lack of confidence, this article is just for you!
5 inspiring tips for confidence building as a female entrepreneur
1. Read autobiographies of legendary women
Sometimes all you need to do to build confidence is get inspired by stories. Women entrepreneurs before you faced sexism as well, but they got over it. They were told to take the help of a man, that they would struggle to work alone being a woman. But they got back to them through their actions when they built an empire of their own.As for autobiographies, you can pick any. If you have a role model, then you can go for theirs. But there are others as well like Oprah Winfrey, and Michelle Obama, who have inspired millions by sharing the story of their lives. Aspire to be just like them, that someday young women will read your autobiography as well.
2. Develop a positive attitude
A negative attitude would not keep you going. It will only hold you back, which is why you have to completely abandon it. You can do so, by replacing it with a positive one. When you possess a positive attitude, you do not just let any problems and trouble stop you. You will not be afraid of failures, instead, you will consider them a part of your life.You will tell yourself. “It’s okay. Now I just have to find ways to overcome it. It’s nothing that I cannot do”“It might be a stopover in the middle, but not the last stop. I have to go on because I have a destination to reach”.
3. Become decisive
When you are living a life or running a business, you have to make small or life-changing decisions every day. Varying from which color of shirt to buy, or investment areas to decide. So, when you are making decisions, you are being confident.You know there’s a reason you are going with this decision. You have faith in your skills as business personnel, and that’s what matters. Every decision you make boosts your confidence. So, do not be afraid. Do what you got to do.
4. Associate yourself with other female entrepreneurs
Women lift other women. Therefore, grow your network, be acquainted with other women entrepreneurs. Doing so will help you build your confidence, and inspire you to keep going. Your thought process would be, “if these women did it, why can’t I?” And not, “I might not be able to handle it on my own.”Just remember, the kind of people you surround yourself with speaks a lot about you. They affect your development. So, if you keep in the company of fierce women entrepreneurs, you will never lack confidence and inspiration.
Women are mistaken to be soft in their approach. It’s okay, but sometimes you have to be authoritative when people don’t listen to you. It means that you are not going to be liked by everyone, and that’s fine. You have a business to run and you have to call out impotence.All this helps to build confidence because being authoritative means you know what you are doing, and you do not care what people think.
You got this woman. Just kill it.
Hey there! Are you a female entrepreneur? Do you have inspiring stories to share? If yes then, do your experiences in the comments below.
the clothes that we bought but only wore once or twice. Now imagine how much we could have saved, had we made better purchasing decisions. Sounds relatable enough? If yes, then learn from my mistakes. Buy only those clothes that you know you would wear certainly.
want people to like me, even if that involves doing an expensive, and unaffordable wardrobe makeover”
decluttering stress, the morning rush, and most importantly, I-cannot-find-the-dress-I-want-to-wear stress.
spending time with yourself to find peace and understand yourself better? Well, if you haven’t done that yet, do it now.
don’t have to do something you are not comfortable with.
other words, you let go without much of a struggle. So, if you want to seriously let go of clothes, and want to help someone, talk to an orphanage or social services regarding clothes donation. Once you do that, clothing donation would seem like an obligation (It’s a good thing). 
benefits – for starters, you acquire knowledge, develop analytical, comprehensive, and critical skills. The list can go on but the point remains the same – reading is the best thing you can do for yourself.
reason – Essential oils in diffusers produce an aroma that can leave you enchanted and de-stressed in no time. Ergo – plug them in before you sleep. We use them in the girls’ room to help them wind down and actually get sleep right away instead of tossing and turning and not getting sleep. My favorite oil for them is Lavender because their problems are minimal compared to us adults, so Lavender is generally great for them. If you want to use doTERRA like we do, 
indulge in meditation at night, do a five-minute breathing exercise before you go to sleep – Not only will it relax your body and mind but will also improve your body functions through an increased supply of oxygen.
understanding what your mind and body genuinely need. There’s no absolute coverage of self-care. As long as it serves its purpose of looking over your well-being to cope with stress and be mentally and physically healthy, then it’s self-care. 
hygiene, and getting all the medical care needed. In essence, it’s about taking care of your health, which is a solid foundation for having a healthy relationship with yourself. It fosters self-sufficiency and resilience. Maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself allows you to be more present for other people. As they say, you can’t pour from an empty cup. 
affect your focus. The most important part of practicing focus is mindfulness. Choose the kind of self-care that lets you have a better sleep, better memory, and keeps you motivated. 
it. You can do so, by replacing it with a positive one. When you possess a positive attitude, you do not just let any problems and trouble stop you. You will not be afraid of failures, instead, you will consider them a part of your life.
don’t listen to you. It means that you are not going to be liked by everyone, and that’s fine. You have a business to run and you have to call out impotence.
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