Has it ever happened to you, that you suddenly woke up with an epiphany that you are not being your best self, and this might not be the life you would want for yourself? Or you have been feeling that your life is lacking something, and it’s high time you have to do something about it? Been there done that? If yes, you are one of the many.
Sometimes, life gives you moments wherein you rethink everything. You evaluate yourself, your habits and thoughts, and conclude that you are done waiting for life to work its magic and you have to do it yourself.
Or perhaps you are someone who is still waiting for a wake-up call. But why wait, when you can wake up on your own? If you think that you are not living how you should be, or you are just sick and tired of your current habits that you think would be your downfall, then that is just enough to consider changing your life for the better.
All the answers lie within you, you just fail to find them, or look in the wrong places. But not anymore, here are 25 questions you need to ponder to change your life.
25 questions to ask yourself to change your life
Where will I be in the next 10 years if I keep doing what I am doing?
Am I in the right place? Does it make me happy?
Do I try hard enough? Do I give my best?
Do I just give up too soon?
Am I going ahead with it because I want it?
What was the last thing I did for myself?
Do I give up my desires to fulfill others’?
Do I value myself enough to stand up for myself?
Is it just in my head? Am I only overthinking this and getting scared for no reason at all?
Do I want to associate with such kinds of people?
What does my intuition say? Am I listening to myself or just others?
Am I taking my life in command or just depending on destiny to move things in my favor?
What am I most afraid of? How can I overcome them?
What are some of the flaws that stop me from killing it in life?
Am I happy in this place?
How am I contributing to my household?
Am I trying hard enough to help someone?
Is it really something I cannot do, or something I do not want to do?
Am I running away from it just because it is difficult?
Why did I give up in the first place? Did I have valid reasons or was it because I was just scared?
Do I believe in myself at all? Or just depend on people for believing in me?
How can I be a better person?
Am I being too hard on myself and complicating things than they really are?
Do I just spend my time thinking rather than taking action?
What would I like to change about my life?
Final thoughts
There are a million things that we do not know about ourselves. Or perhaps we know them, but this knowledge often is hidden away in our subconscious mind, and we just need to find it. Remember, sometimes all it takes is a change of mind to change everything in your life. And this change of mind starts with thinking things through and knowing yourself better. These twenty-five questions are here just to do the same, to help you know yourself better and change your life accordingly for the better. For, haven’t you heard, you are the writer of your own life? Always remember that.
Hey, how have you been? Do you involve yourself in some self-questioning from time to time? How has it worked for you? Did it help to change your life? Feel free to share your experiences if you have any, in the comment section.
Christmas break may or may not be extended beyond the original date in the first part of January like planned, so some WFH Parenting Hacks with MathGames.com is high on my priority list, and maybe yours too!
As we navigate the New Year, and a hope of returning to something somewhat normal, we may see a few things from 2020 still lingering, especially if you have kiddos and school aged children. Daycare and school may be still forced to close, and I know for one, the board games and screen time probably aren’t going to help anyone. And those toys from Christmas will most likely wear out faster than years past.
Listen, we can only expect the kids to entertain themselves for so long, and hope it’s long enough to get our work done ourselves. Especially if we are working from home and trying to take conference calls in a makeshift home office.
Here are a few tips to help mix things up, and help with ensuring your kids don’t drive you straight crazy even with all the magical energy that is the holiday season!
WFH Parenting Hacks
Make Screen Time Educational: As children attempt distance learning, one subject they might be struggling with is math. MathGames.com has a collection of games and apps that connects math and fun and makes it easy for kids to learn! Created for ages pre-k to 9th grade, Math Games has over 1,200 tutorials created by 20+ teachers, to help kids with their at-home learning.
Find a new online game: Instead of watching TV, introduce your kids to online games that will challenge them mentally and keep them entertained. Puzzle games like Candy Connect or Hex Puzzle from Addicting Games will keep your children busy for hours, for FREE.
Limit Screen Time with Worksheets: Give your kids a break from screens and print out FREE, educational worksheets from Math Games. This is the perfect way to give your kids the extra opportunity to practice skills taught in the classroom.
Play Games together!: As we continue to social-distance, multiplayer games are a great way to stay connected with friends virtually. Little Big Snake is the ultimate slither style game. In this game, you start off as a small, wormy looking serpent that has to eat, smash, and slither its way up the food chain. The jungle is an arena and you’ll be pitted against other players who are hungry for the same evolution as you. If you want to win you’ll have to be sneaky!
Plan Breaks with your Kids: It’s always important to get some fresh air and at least twenty minutes of sunshine! Take your lunch outside and have a fun picnic or go on a brisk walk around the neighborhood. This will provide a reset mentally and the physical activity will give you and your kids energy to power through the rest of the day!
Even with all the changes and having one home parent of both working parents, it’s really important to have quiet time especially when we are overstimulated. When everyone has a bit of quiet time, we are able to come back refreshed and recharged able to take on the rest of the day. Sometimes it’s due to not having enough sleep while others it’s due to being cooped up and restless. Don’t forget, we are all experiencing things differently, all navigating these times at different ages with different understandings. Take it easy and remember we all process things differently and some of us might need one parent more than the working parent at different times of the day/week. Take everything in stride and one day at a time to help get through these times.
I know for us, these few tips have been super helpful, even with school in session and especially now that school is out, and they are home while my hubby and I both are trying to do work. And trying to keep the mom guilt at bay while still getting things done, is always an up hill battle. May your new year be one filled with ease and joy no matter what is thrown your way!
All of us know that our life is not a romantic novel, yet all we want is to have a happy ending. We want our relationships to last, but it does not always happen. Even when we have a partner who loves us unconditionally, we always have this fear at the back of the mind… what if it does not last. And we just wonder seeing those old happy-still-in-love couples, how can we have that? How do we ensure that our relationship stays alive till the end of our time?
We are going to answer all your questions. Meanwhile, you can put aside your worries, and let the love gurus be at work to guide you.
In this article, we are going to tell you about the things you can do to make sure that your relationship lasts.
How to keep the spark alive in your relationship
1. Communication
Love is not the only thing to keep your relationship alive. You need more than that, you need communication. It’s essential to be honest with your partner and talk about your feelings with them. (Not only when you are having rough days, but all the time). You cannot just have a happy relationship if you barely talk to your partner for days. It does not work like that. Communication is the pillar of any relationship, you cannot avoid that.
If you don’t know what to talk about anymore, here is an idea – Talk about literally anything, Talk about your day, your future plans, how do you feel, what’s bothering you, and so on! When you have better communication, you can spend quality time better together. Date nights no longer seem dreaded or overlooked when you and your partner both feel loved and communication is the key to everything.
2. Understand each other a little more
In any relationship, we want to be understood. But in between wanting to be understood, we forget to understand our significant other. Understanding is important, if you don’t have that between you two, then you might hit the rock bottom.
If you have a hard time understanding your partner, just imagine yourself in their shoes. How would you feel if you were them? What would have you done? Once you do that, you will be a little more accepting and compassionate towards them. When you understand each other and develop an emotional connection, that can make your partner feel even more secure than physical intimacy can as they feel they can trust and know you are on the same page.
3. Let go of grudges
You can have rough patches in a relationship, you can be mad at your partner for something they had done or said. But just so you know, you cannot make it last if you hold grudges against your partner. Be a little easy, and be a little more forgiving. Everyone makes mistakes, but if you think they regret it to their core then it’s time to let go of what you hold against them. Get past it.
This is the secret to long term couples and even couples who are in relationships over long distances. Never go to bed with a grudge or angry, it only helps in losing the spark faster!
4. Plan surprises
One of the primary reasons why relationships don’t last is because people stop making efforts, and stop doing all the special things they did for their partners; it’s as if they begin to take things for granted. If that’s so, just remember the beginning of your relationship, how different you had been? You used to go to greater lengths to make the other person smile, now you just come home, grab a beer, watch TV, and sleep.
If your goal is to make it last, then don’t stop with the efforts. Keep on surprising your partner with cute gestures. For instance, prepare the ambiance, decorate the room with candles and lights before they come back home. Treat them with fancy dinners. Keep on planning dates like you did before, and you will be just fine.
This one is especially important to understand the 5 love languages and know which your partner prefers. It might be physical touch or quality time or even acts of kindness that help bring the spark for them while yours will probably be something completely different. Understanding this will ensure a long term relationship working and help you to always bring the spark.
5. Spend time with each other
Life happens, and you might get busy amidst a thousand professional obligations. That’s okay, you have work, and sometimes you cannot ignore it. But at the same time, you cannot ignore your relationship. If you cannot spend time with your partner today, then make up for it tomorrow.
If you are making up the time not spent one day, make sure to do so without your cell phone or social media getting more attention than your partner. I know it should be a given and not necessary to say this, but I will be honest, there are times where Steve and I go out for date night yet work still manages to creep in and we have to consciously remember to put down the phone and enjoy ourselves together. It’s hard, but it’s worth it to keep the relationship going.
Believe it or not, the best gift you can sometimes give to anyone is your time. They might not say anything in order to be understanding, but they crave your presence. The same is true of your children and pets. They just want your time, and life goes by so fast, be sure to be present as often as you can.
Well, that’s all we have to say. Now that you know how to keep the spark alive in your relationship, we do hope that things work out for you, and you become those lovey-dovey, forever-in-love couples we all envy.
How do you keep your relationships alive? Feel free to share your experiences and suggestions with us in the comment section.
We use, and we waste. Sadly, it is our environment that has to deal with what comes afterward by risking itself. And the result? A long list of environmental issues starting with air pollution, rising temperatures, changing climates, and natural disasters; it’s not surprising to assume that the environment might be showing that it is done with handling our mess. We live a waste lifestyle and the environment has to take the brunt of it.
Nevertheless, if there’s someone that can handle the situation – it’s us. And surprisingly, it doesn’t take a lot to do something good for the environment. All we have to do is change our lifestyle a little, be more conscious to reduce wastage.
So, if you’re someone who wants to contribute, and do your part, you must start somewhere and in my opinion, your kitchen is the best place to do so. It’s the home to harmful substances – the most deadly of that lot is PLASTIC. Your job is to reduce its consumption as much as you can.
But how do you do that?
Start with these easy kitchen swaps.
Zero-waste kitchen swaps
What not to use » What to use
Plastic Sponges » Cotton sponges
Liquid soap that comes in plastic packaging » Organic dish soap bars
Aluminum foils and plastic wraps » Beeswax wraps/steel lunch boxes (My favorite ones come from Nature Bee Wraps!)
Plastic food storage bags » Silicon bags
Plastic food jars » Glass/steel jars or mason jars
Polythene » Cloth shopping bags
Plastic vegetable bags » Cloth Vegetable trolleys
Paper napkins » Cloth napkins
Plastic straws » Steel/Bamboo straws
Disposable plates and spoons » Glass or steel plates, and steel spoons/fork (My new favorites come from Bentgo and I use these for the girls’ lunchboxes and silverware)
Plastic bottles » Glass/copper bottles
Teabags » Tea leaves
Plastic coffee tumbler » Stainless steel mugs
Paper cupcake liners » Reusable silicon cupcake liners
Plastic chopping board » Wooden chopping board
Plastic kitchen spatula » Steel/ wooden spatula
Plastic soap dish » Wooden soap dish
Plastic buckets » Steel buckets
Plastic bags / Plastic sachets » Brown paper
Cleaning agents in plastic packaging » Baking soda/ lemon
Plastic Tupperware » Glassware
Bottled water >> Reusable water bottle
Cotton balls >> Organic Cotton wipes or even washable makeup sponges
Drip Coffee Filters >> French Press
Other additional tips to reduce and handle waste
Reduce takeaways
Takeaways come in plastic packaging. Unless you choose a restaurant that emphasizes sustainable living conduct, try to reduce your takeaways. If the option is available, try to eat out in the restaurant itself – that would ensure that you’d have the option of using crockery (Glass, or steel) available at the restaurant.
This is one thing as a family, we usually don’t do, unless it’s dessert! We rarely eat leftovers, so they end up taking valuable space in the refrigerator we aren’t willing to give up. Plus, it’s less to carry away!
Only take what you can eat (Be mindful of the quantity)
This one is for reducing food wastage at your home. Only take the quantity you can consume. If you are not sure, take a little, and if you still have the appetite, refill. That way, you’d ensure you eat as per your appetite, without wasting food.
I practice this in our home constantly, especially when the girls say they are starving, yet only eat a little bit. It’s easier to have little portions to start than a whole plateful that goes to waste.
When you take more than you can handle, this usually results in using plastic wrap for storage or even paper towels to cover the food when warming up in the microwave.
Composting
Composting can be a blessing for both the environment and your garden. In fact, composting is the process of converting food waste into fertilizer that can be used to improve the quality of your plants. You can do composting at home, or contact the local authorities that provide the facility.
I haven’t personally composted, but I have seen some pretty great options which take the smell right away and are quite powerful. This one from Vitamix has great reviews.
Opt for loose food items
Some grocery items such as wheat and rice come in both plastic packaging and loose. Go for the stores that allow you to have refills, or collect these food items in your own packaging. Try to stay plastic free as much as possible.
I believe this will start to return into a post COVID world, but do the best you can to reduce the waste. If you must buy something with a “plastic” on it, make sure it’s made of alternative material so it can be recycled or composted.
Conserve resources
This goes without saying – we think we have the resources in abundance but we do not. Resources are limited and we must do our best to conserve them not only for the environment but for our budgets as well. Thus, always ensure that you conserve valuable resources like water and electricity. For electricity – do not leave the electric points running when you don’t need them, and for water – by ensuring you do not leave the tap running for long. (Even ten seconds of water wastage can be heavy.)
It is really important we teach the younger generation this especially with the growing amount of screen time and need to always be doing something. My two get distracted easily so this is an important reminder for them.
Go local
When you opt for local markets, instead of the big, commercial stores, you reduce your carbon footprint. You save the transportation, production, and packaging needs and resources that are usually incurred to meet your demand. Not to mention, these big commercial brands and retail stores are not eco-friendly and do a lot of energy wastage in the name of convenience. Be wise with your choices.
I love shopping local farmers markets as much as possible because I usually discover a new company or product I can share with my guests and family!
Go vegan
Going vegan can be highly beneficial for the environment. Among the many benefits, the most significant one is that vegan products use minimum resources and produce minimum damaging byproducts as compared to a non-vegetarian eating lifestyle.
I’ve been vegetarian/vegan since I was a teenager and I can attest that not only is it healthier for your own body, I find less waste in the kitchen as I don’t have a lot of the same trash as my non vegan/vegetarian family members. It makes trash day lighter and also keeps the refrigerator nice and stocked!
Grow your own vegetable garden
You’ll not only save the environment by reducing your carbon footprint but would also save a lot on groceries. So, if you love to maintain a yard, try to keep food-producing plants more than floral ones.
Well, that’s enough to get you started. If you decided to do as mentioned, you’re doing a marvelous deed for the environment. Be proud of yourself. These waste swaps are pretty easy to implement and are more than most people will try to do in their life, so every little bit helps!
Hey there, how do you reduce wastage in your kitchen? Feel free to share some tips with us in the comment section.
There are days when we go berserk; we would have a million thoughts going in our heads of the injuries of the past, memories of the bad decisions, worries about if we are going to make good use of life, and not to forget work stress. All these chaotic thoughts, in this little head of ours!
Well, it can drive all of us to the edge…Unless; you dump them like you dump your garbage every day. This is what a brain dump is, wherein you just scrap and let out every thought you have to feel better and lighter than ever. It’s simple you know, just perceive these thoughts like several unwanted guests. You wouldn’t want them in your house. Would you?
If that’s so, we are happy to help you drive away those thoughts. In this article, we will provide you a few ways that can help you do a brain dump for self-care.
How to do a brain dump for self-care
1. Grab a paper and pen
Let not your thoughts wander just in your mind, grab a pen and paper and let them be out on the paper. Be as vulnerable as you can. Write everything you feel. What are you sad about? Did someone say anything to upset you? Is there something you hate about the world or people in general?
Write everything, don’t miss anything. What you are doing right now is what Aristotle called catharsis. In simple words, it’s just letting out your feelings. Imagine your head like a balloon, the more thoughts it will fill, the sooner it will burst.
So even if you are angry, write it down. Write curses or abuses. Be assured that no one is going to read it other than you (Given that you tear it later). You are even allowed to clench your teeth or harshly scribble to let out your anger and frustration. Writing it out helps you release all the tension and frustration you might have in areas of your body causing pain.
Just let that piece of paper consume all that you are feeling and don’t feel the need to use punctuation or proper spelling. Get it all out of your brain and on the paper.
2. Use art
There are different ways of letting out. Some people choose to do it with a pen; others do it by channeling through different art forms. If writing doesn’t suit you, then you can paint, or draw to let things out.
You don’t have to be an artist for that. Just draw anything that describes what you are feeling. You can draw a cartoon, with a bubble over it putting words to your feeling, or literally anything. Remember, no one will see this, so don’t judge yourself when you are doing this. Let it all out.
If you happen to like music and singing, you can do a brain dump by writing a song. It’s okay if you haven’t done that before. It’s a good day to start. Don’t refuse it just because you think you won’t do a good job. You are letting out your thoughts for yourself, and it does not matter if the output is good or not.
3. Use an audio recorder instead
Find writing too exhausting for your fingers? Or perhaps you think that a piece of paper might not be able to contain all that you are feeling? No worries, make-shift for a voice recorder. Act as if you are recording something to send to your friends. So, just be as free you can. Vent it out, there’s no time limit to it. You can go beyond hours if you feel the need to. Because we have our phones and technology with us almost always, you can download a voice recorder app onto your phone and press play whenever and wherever you are. There’s no limit to when and where you can do a brain dump any longer!
You can even use the mirror if you cannot find a voice recorder. Just stand in front of it, and empty all that you are feeling.
4. Talk to a virtual assistant
How to do a Brain Dump for Self-Care
I know this sounds insane. But just so you know artificial intelligence can be your companion that might not be real ears and mouth, yet it would still feel like you are typing your heart to a friend of yours. Trust me, Siri would not judge you. You can say things and be as transparent as you can.
Sometimes, you will find Siri saying things that would make zero sense, and you would laugh, you would get angry, but hey, what else can you expect from artificial intelligence?
Final thoughts
When you are done with it and feel better, try to do it more often. If you can, do it daily, if not weekly. It will be a booster for your mental health!
Hey, feel you have some suggestions and ideas to spare or something I missed? Feel free to drop them in the comments below.
Everything about Christmas is worth smiling and being happy about. The Christmas lights, decorations, carols, gifts, and whatnot. However, there’s still one exception that can make you sweat despite the merriness and joyfulness of Christmas – The expenses. Christmas can mean overspending.
But not anymore! Wondering how? Read along to find out.
30 smart tips to save money during Christmas
1. Gift experiences
You cannot always gift materialistic things, you can also gift experiences. For instance, a go-kart experience for your kid! This is my number 1 ask of people gifting our girls, not just for Christmas, but for everything! An experience and time spent with the gift giver is far more important a memory that will last much longer than the toy or clothing item ever will!
2. Regift
Have a lot of gifts that remain unused and unopened? Feel free to gift them away. There’s no shame in that. As someone who always gets a ton of extra PR gifts I can’t ever use, this is one of my favorite ways to gift. I usually don’t open the item, or if I do, it’s carefully and barely used. It’s the perfect way to gift someone something that would normally sit around and take up space collecting dust!
3. DIY gifts
You can make Christmas cards, mixtapes, cookies, and cakes to gift someone. Even handmade cards are great DIY gifts!
4. Send out E-cards
Some websites allow you to do that for free! A few I found and have used before include 123cards and JibJab.
5. Make use of coupon codes and cashback
Don’t let them sit idle. The same goes for gift cards! These are money baby and you can use them just as you would use cash!
6. Shop Christmas essentials on Amazon
Retail stores tend to loot customers with heavy prices during the Christmas season! Instead, shop on Amazon.
7. Buy Amazon gift cards
Let people decide on their own what they want this Christmas. This works amazing for people you don’t know so well, or those who are extra picky! You can also get amazing deals if you buy them constantly throughout the year.
8. Pay attention to money-saving deals
Don’t turn a blind eye to deals that can help you save bucks. Watch out for sales, offers, and deals. Don’t hesitate to shop beforehand if you find a good deal.
9. Don’t shop last moment on Amazon
You might have to pay extra shipping fees to get the purchases sooner if you place the order late during Christmas days.
10. Shop on Dollar trees
Dollar trees are discount variety stores throughout the USA and Canada. You can get good products for as low as $1.
11. Save wrapping paper
Got a gift? Don’t just throw away the wrapping paper. Instead, open it with ease to use it again.
12. Go for wrapping paper alternatives
Don’t have used wrapping papers? No issue, you don’t need to buy new ones when you can settle for thin wrapping rolls or brown paper rolls. You can also decorate them with stickers for aesthetics. A fun thing which became popular last season was the Japanese style of gift wrapping called furoshiki, which uses fabric to store, carry, and wrap things. They are a specific size, but you can google the size and use any fabrics, or scarfs you want to gift or have on hand as the gift wrapping. It becomes a gift that keeps on giving!
13. Shop cheap Christmas tree decorations
If you are not at all in for using old Christmas tree decorations, at least do not buy decorations from high-end craft and stationery stores. Instead, buy them from the Dollar Store! You’ll get them at dirt-cheap prices and they have cute options always!
14. Save on dinners
If you are hosting a Christmas dinner, try to encourage your guests to bring one dish per family. There’s no shame in that – the wise ones will understand the stress and hard work one has to go through during dinner preparations. This also gives those of us who don’t always cook the ability to contribute something to the table when we otherwise wouldn’t be asked.
As Amazon reserves some portion for itself for every sale, some sellers on Amazon list their products higher to make up for their loss. Thus, you can get the same products cheaper at the seller’s website. You can also do a free store pickup or free shipping if you get it direct from the store versus on Amazon.
18. Go to a mall for a Santa experiences
If your kids love Santa, there’s no need to hire one for them. Instead, take them out to a mall. Malls have Santas dressed up to entertain kids for free.
19. Head to Shutterfly for coupon codes
If you’re looking for great money-saving deals, you can rely on Shutterfly coupon codes. Just register on the website, and you can get amazing coupon codes from time to time.
20. Stop gifting adults
Just ask yourself, how many gifts that you got during the years on Christmas remain unused? I bet there’d be plenty. But that’s not just you. So, stop gifting adults if your acquaintances share the same mindset. If you do decide to gift them, maybe a small gift card and a coffee cup is sufficient. Nothing extravagant is needed.
21. Go for boxed Christmas cards
You can find such boxes in Target. Since they are in bundles, you can get several for cheap. You can continue using them for years if you still have some left to give. These take up less time and energy, thus maybe you will get them in the mail on time!
22. Gift meaningful gifts
Instead of shopping for something expensive for someone, gift them something meaningful. For instance, if your partner loves reading books, gift them one. A gift card to their favorite store is also a meaningful gift that shows you care.
23. Buy an affordable turkey beforehand
You don’t have to buy one from a lavish store. Don’t fall for the packaging and store aesthetics. Especially this year, the shortage of many things will cause for increased prices and higher demands, therefore shop early!
24. Book tickets in advance
Have to be elsewhere for Christmas? Book your tickets beforehand – before ticket prices soar to new heights during Christmas. A little note about this one — have patience and understanding as many people in the service industry are overworked and getting very little pay.
25. Don’t borrow on Christmas
If you can manage the expenses through savings, don’t add loans. You’ll also have to pay interest. The same thing goes for spending all of your paycheck and not putting anything into savings like other months. Now is not the time to skip on your future!
26. Do a secret Santa
Doing a Secret Santa means buying gifts for one person – not everybody. Hence, lots of money-saving. Another tip is to set a limit on the amount spent for the person. It allows people to get creative with their gift giving or to let people pick one gift for that dollar amount.
27. Start money-saving early and create a reserve
Reserve a little money for Christmas every month to prevent the financial blows later.
28. Invest in an artificial Christmas tree
They are cheaper and they won’t destroy the Christmas vibe, but help you save money. Plus, they don’t make a huge mess and require watering, adding to the stress of Christmas.
29. Find local events
If your locality happens to host free events, don’t think twice. Ditch the fancy day-outs. Growing up, the Christmas parade was something we looked forward to each year. We got to see cool floats that threw out candy and it always ended with Santa on the sleigh. We then got to go sit on his lap and get a bag of goodies and tell him what we wanted. Give those same memories to your kids.
30. Lastly, Save for next year
I know it’s a little too early, but hey starting early can help you save more.
Merry Christmas! If you happen to try these tips, let me know how they work out for you in the comments below. Have a great time this year!
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